When abuse is emotional, it is very subtle and manipulative. You may not even know you’re being abused. It is not like severe aggressive abuse, or sexual abuse where you are physically hurt. Those are clearly seen as abuse in the eyes of people. But emotional abuse can fall under a form of love, or it can seem like protection. But protection is in fact twisted into possessiveness and controlling behavior, and underlying threats. It is like the concept of taking a prescribed drug and paining yourself with the sting of a needle, when in the process, you know it will cure you - but the OTHER way round. It’s the goodness of the needle that shows, but there is pain when it is induced. I think this is why I hold discomfort towards people who show me they care too much for me, or want to know my deepest desires. I want distance. I want freedom. Trapped in one’s mind is not a healthy feeling. Insomnia. Numbness. Being made fun of by a parent. One day it will hit you - hit you hard, and it can feel like it’s too late, but eventually you will realize and find the strength to get out of it, when the time comes.
Another thing is that people actually stereotype abuse as something that happens mostly in “romantic” relationships or friendships. In fact, family members can be emotionally abusive. And this may lead to detachment from social activities and a saddened, fatigued feeling or being numb.